Aug 17

Connecting With Others

Over years and years of your lifetime, if you are actively thinking, hopefully you are learning along the way. Part of what makes living in a social society so special, is creating friendships with others. Having a connection with another person in a sea of billions of people can be very special. Not everyone is capable of making solid friendships that occur when two people generally like being in each other’s company. Some people can go through their lifetime never really knowing what’s its like to truly have a friend that you can trust, and fully confide ideas into one another.

What are your goals while you live your life? Do you want to be a well liked person by those who shared in your life? If you think so, then you simply want to go out there and try to make as many friends as you can get. The more people’s who’s lives you can effect on this planet, the more significantly you will leave a presence on this Earth and be remembered.

creating a friendship

One of the most significant ways to at least get people interested in becoming your friend, is simply by you being interested in other people. Dale Carnegie once said in his book How to Win Friends and Influence People  that”You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

When I was in Oakland attending a friend’s wedding for the weekend, I came across a total net worker. He was one of those guys that you just knew you would remember. His persona, and genuine eye contact and interest in our conversation really made him stand out from the crowd in my mind. He was just a simple business owner on the outside, but he certainly was not a simple kind of man. This was one of those people who seemed to be able to forge a relationship with anyone that he talked too. And it wasn’t like he was living the most interesting life, but it was just the bubbly way he carried himself in the presence of company.

There are a certain set of attributes that can cause a person to make a connection with another and forge a friendship, and it does not really matter who you are talking to. It could be homeless person on the street or a professional athlete. Here are some ways that you can make this happen:

Be Genuinely Interested in What They Say

If you are interested in what somebody has to say, and truly are interested, then actually show it. If you don’t really have an interest in what another person is saying, then don’t show it, this prevents bad awkward friendships from happening.

longtime friends

Help Your Friends

Help your friends out whenever you can. If you are easing life on your friend, and making other people’s lives easier, whether it be by relaxing them, getting a laugh out of them, or helping promote them to other friends.

Meet Your Friends’ Friends

Possibly the best way to forge quick positive relationships with other people is by meeting the friends of your friends. If you and another person are able to make a connection, then there could definitely be some capacity in you finding a connection through one of their friends, who know it could even be stronger.

creating friendships

Make an Impression

Nobody remembers the guy that is never creating a memory in someone. And it’s harder to remain remembered if you don’t appear in someone’s life every so often. Make appearances at places where your friends might be located if you have the opportunity. Send your friends a postcard, or shoot them an email every now and then. These are great ways to contact a person and letting them know that you remember them, and it gives them the opportunity to contact whenever is best on their terms.

Put Some Effort in Your Friendships

Nobody likes a friendship to be one-sided. As long as you show compassion, care, and interest in a person, others will feel that connection being created and you can call one another your friend.

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